Human Connection is Becoming Uncomfortable For Many
Authenticity is something many people struggled with even
before the social media tsunami that hit many of us. The reason why
authenticity is an obstacle for many of us is because we are just not aware of
it nor work towards it. Many will in fact profess that they are real, or keep
it real, but what is real is subjective and being authentic is more than just
keeping it real. Being authentic means being ok with being vulnerable and that
for most is just something we are wholly conditioned to avoid.
When the social media brigade hit, it hit with a force few
of us have witnessed. I will be the first to admit that I never thought it
would take off the way it has but research has many explanations as to why it
has. Humans are social animals. Yes, we are just another species of animals
that have been struck with the randomness of the blessing of the prefrontal
cortex. This lets us create dreams and goals and work to achieve them. It has
also enabled us to evolve and develop that most human attribute, empathy which
is the social adherent that enabled us to form the complex social groups that
helped us to our place in the animal kingdom today. We all are hard wired for
connection. Not just any connection, but emotional and intimate connection. It
is a fabric of our well being. It is why we have survived. We are living in an
epidemic of loneliness and research shows that loneliness can de deadlier than
any other illness or disease we can be exposed to.
Social media subconsciously speaks to this need of
connection. The problem is it doesn't satisfy the need. Our social and
emotional needs are only satisfied by face to face interaction. By hearing
someone's voice on the phone. By observing someone else's posture and body
movement. Social media does not provide the platform for brain synchronization
and emotional mind sharing that in person interactions do.
As a consequence of our use of social media our
interpersonal skills suffer because there is no method of practice to
strengthen them and we can easily get caught up in a vicious cycle where we are
going to social media to get something we don't get, but don't realize that it
can not provide it. As this negatively impacts our emotional well being we
gravitate more to the media only to have it perpetuate this emotional downward
trend.
In addition, as we gravitate more to social media and it
method of 'connecting' the real life face to face interactions and connections
that we actually want become harder and more uncomfortable for us to do because
they are no longer our norm. The status quo has changed and when happens we are
not ambitious to get out of our comfort zones. It doesn't matter whether it is
healthy for us or not. Our brains do not make distinctions between good or bad
habits.
I am not attempting
to villainize social media, but to put forth the potential perils it can bring
about by bringing awareness to some things we all should be aware of. Neural plasticity changes occur rapidly and
these changes will become permanent (habits) quicker than most can realize.
Going to social media outlets for emotional fulfillment and validation is a bad
habit. One that is unhealthy and potentially detrimental to one's well being. Mindfulness
is our ally. Use it to be conscious of why and what you are doing the next time
you log in.
#elliotyi
#paradigmleft
#habits
#mindset
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